My daughters – two wonderful, intelligent, creative, funny, loving individuals – are spending their holiday vacation with their biological father.
They arrived in his care on Monday (Christmas Eve) at approximately noon.
Christmas was Tuesday.
Woe – wait.
Guess when they last saw their biological father?
Well, that would be August 5th.
I spoke with E on Wednesday – her 2nd or 3rd day with her biological father.
She was telling me of some strange voice mail recordings on her cell phone.
I responded with, “Did you share them with [fuck-head]? What did he think?]
She responded: “I can’t, he’s been out all day – he isn’t here.”
I know that the vast majority of parents need a break. They want their parents, or in-laws, to give them a hand iwth hte kids – to give them some breathing room – some adult time.
But the vast majority of parents have contact with their kids more than 10% of the year.
Seriously – my ex does NOT.
Does he really need a break?
After 48 hours?
If I only saw my girls for a total of [quickly doing math] 25 – 35 DAYS!!! per year … you can be certain that I’m not “going out” for a day – or even an evening – while I am with them.
But I also would never make the decision to live first 1,000 and then 2,000 miles away from them. After moving 3,000 miles away — the distance only shortened by their other parent’s decision to go to law school on the other coast.
Why does he continue to take their summers from them? To insist on removing them from their everyday lives? I do not understand. If his time with them is so very disposable – why put them through it?
I am anxious for some explanations. If anyone has a theory – or a disagreement with my assessment – please, let it be known.
I do not understand.
They’re such great people.